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In Memory of my parent who died 3 Years Ago Today

lilmiz1 started this conversation
Remembering my step-dad today, Raymond Moore, who died three years ago today from Alzheimer's Disease. It's a difficult day for me, my mind goes back to that morning. The night before our entire family was at his bedside while he was unconscious and sedated, our pastor at the time joined us along with the hospice nurse, as we prayed holding hands. His blood pressure was low, but after a prayer it would go up again. My now 15 year old daughter's hand was the only one he would squeeze. They were exceptionally close (we all lived together). I do believe he was aware of her presence and it was his way of telling her goodbye.

After we all left, my mom remained and when she came home she said suddenly he opened his eyes and was wide awake and very aware of his surroundings. She fed him ice cream and some juice. She said when she left he puckered up and gave her a big kiss---I do believe that was his goodbye to her.

The next morning my mom called at 5am ish and they said he had slept well and was again wide awake, so the aides were going to get him ready for some breakfast a bit later on.

At 8:15am we got the call that the aides found him and he had passed away, but I think that is what he wanted, to pass away alone in his own time. I wanted to be there when he did, but it was God's will to take him.

I miss him a lot, but I have a lot of great memories, thanks Aidpage family for giving me this forum to reflect today. I made the video on the year anniversary of his death, and the photos are when my girls are younger. I wrote the poetry that shows throughout the video---and I no longer have the myspace page that is mentioned at the end.
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Starshine
 in response to lilmiz1...   You are welcome. That is cool about collecting coins as mom did and gave use each a book with dimes from long ago but some are missing and pennies too. I have pictures of my folks and I am glad you have the memories to hold on too. :)
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lilmiz1
 in response to Starshine...   Thanks, Starshine. My oldest daughter learned a lot from him, and loves to collect old coins, as he did...Im glad she has those memories, my youngest does not recall much of him, as he started becoming ill when she was old enough to really remember things....we have alot of pictures and, his big band record collection, an extensive coin collection...so we have a lot to hold onto! :)
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Starshine
Hello and I am sorry for your loss. I haven't watched the video and will do so. That was a very loving post about your step dad. I am glad you have the memories to hold you through the rest of your years. I wanted to be there when my mom passed and saw her everyday but she passed 13 minutes after the call about her not doing well and I didn't get there in time. She was in a morphine sleep from cancer.
Take care
Starshine
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lilmiz1

Here's The Video

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